Tuesday, April 02, 2013
My Old Friends at Home
Susan Edinger, asked a great question about networking that I'm sure many people have wondered about. She explained, "It seems that people in the job search are reluctant to let their network know they are actively in the search." She goes on to add, "I'm wondering if the issue is the fear of rejection."
For approximately 5 or 6 years, I spoke monthly to a group of people being helped by Right Management to find their next job. My talk was to help those clients think about the contacts they already had that they could use to help them gain the next opportunity. What was really interesting to me was almost each one had never left his or her office to network and had left previous connections lie fallow.
Obviously it felt awkward to now try to awaken those relationships.
So a commercial break here! A word to the wise. Continue to stay connected with old friends and acquaintances. When you need help, you probably will have already provided that very same help for them previously. Then it's not so awkward to ask for help now. End of break!
A real conundrum. But not so much. In my opinion most people like to help. If you let people know of your situation, that you are in the job market, they will probably help if they can. And they won't begrudge you. Take an old colleague to lunch or to coffee if that's what you can afford. Make sure you pay. Listen and take notes.
Before long, these lunches will begin to pay off in new connections that might help. You just never know.