Wednesday, September 07, 2016
Are You Coming from Scarcity?
Many years ago now, I asked one of my fellow BNI members to attend some Connext Nation event. I don’t remember what it was, but it was probably free. He launched into a verbal attack saying that all I wanted was money from him. This diatribe went on for what seemed liked eternity, but probably only lasted a few long seconds. I was so puzzled, because I am not the take it all, leave nothing behind type of sales person.
I mentioned this unfortunate incident to a friend who is much smarter than I and she said, “Debby, he is coming from scarcity.” I had not heard this terminology before and asked for more explanation from her. She explained that when people feel that they are not getting enough that fear takes over. They will lash out inappropriately when pushed beyond a certain line that has been drawn in the sand by their mind. Hence the attack that seemed to come from nowhere had been brewing for awhile and I was the unknowing trigger. To say the least I kept my distance from this man at all times in the future.
Scarcity makes us all act in ways that we probably are not proud. Beyond the lashing out mentioned above, we also tend to hoard or hold on tightly to anything we perceive as our own. We don’t easily collaborate or give freely of ourselves. Recognizing these actions is important because most of us don’t want to push others out of our lives permanently. Our emotions want more, but our actions are gaining less.
Years ago, the late Thomas Leonard, was an expert at sharing online coaching and marketing concepts. He was way ahead of his time when he founded TeleClass.com in 1998 and had 100 TeleClasses being delivered in any one week. I listened to many of his classes and was fortunate enough to even be on some with Thomas “live.” A participant asked one time, “Aren’t you afraid that people are going to steal your ideas?” I’ll never forget his reply. He said, “I hope they do so, because I think you should give away 60% of what you have and know, but charge dearly for the remaining 40%.” That phrase has been running through my life ever since then.
Scarcity behavior has a way of driving people and money away from you. Is that the vibe you are putting out and if so, is it what you really want?