Wednesday, May 08, 2013

Going for Broken

My son, Greg. The Reluctant Networker, shared a phone conversation he had with someone who has a similar business to his, but not exactly the same.  One of Greg's connections thought it would be good for the two to be introduced to see if there might be some synergy.  Now I have to tell you that I can take lessons from my son in being nice.  He truly tries to make everyone feel comfortable and wants to see how he can help.

Evidently the introduction was made via email and this new person, let's call him Adam, and Greg decided to have a virtual coffee date.  In oldster language, that means a phone chat.

Greg said this was the most difficult phone conversation he'd had in a long time.  He tried to find common ground and was deferred.  He shared a piece information that he knew to be true and was told it was incorrect.  When he asked the types of people this person was going after, so Greg might be able to send people Adam's way, Greg was told, that's not the way we do it anymore.  That way is "old school."  H-m-m-m-m!

I don't know about you, but I sure hope the people I am meeting with are of the old school variety.  Helping others to be successful is what it's all about as far as I'm concerned.  Greg said that he wouldn't be sending anyone to Adam based on this "interesting" conversation. I don't blame him.

What do you think was going through Adam's head?


Michelle Schenk said...

I think that Adam might be afraid of some competition. Instead of looking for opportunity within the competition, he threw away opportunity.

Debby said...

That was my thought, too, Michelle. So many people are so afraid that "someone" is going to steal something from them that they don't even have yet! And that attitude sends many others running away!

Greg Peters said...

I like to tell people that great networkers don't have competition. They have colleagues. Too bad "Adam" didn't understand that.

Ah, well. His loss.

Debby said...

Greg, you and I understand this, now we only have to convince the rest of the world!

Anonymous said...

Adam has a scarcity mentality.