tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19066927.post115470587056990462..comments2023-10-31T08:21:01.666-04:00Comments on Debby Peters, Networking Guru, Speaker Trainer Author: How to Not Get People to BuyDebbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14144469687599598038noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19066927.post-1156547222407644562006-08-25T19:07:00.000-04:002006-08-25T19:07:00.000-04:00Your were correct. There is a difference between s...Your were correct. There is a difference between selling and just plain out rude.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19066927.post-1155734956472298762006-08-16T09:29:00.000-04:002006-08-16T09:29:00.000-04:00Don't you, at times, in that situation just want t...Don't you, at times, in that situation just want to teach them a lesson! Teaching, often is about modeling and leading by example. What would you teach this person? Certainly, you might feel like dismissing them as someone you wouldn't want to do business with; however, too many times, I've experienced a bonding with people like the person Debby encountered because I've confronted them and challenged them to do things a bit differently. It is way cool when the crass person becomnes a lifetime frend, a referral partner, or the best participant in at your presentation. Don't smack him or her by returning an insult or lashing out in anger; rather, gently lift up a challenge and model the kind of treatment you'd prefer. If it doens't work out, at least you'll feel better about what you did and nothing will be lost anyway.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19066927.post-1155132555335797582006-08-09T10:09:00.000-04:002006-08-09T10:09:00.000-04:00I certainly don't think you are being overly sensi...I certainly don't think you are being overly sensitive. I tend to REALLY run from people like that. I have had too many bad experiences over the years and know better than to even get past their hello, I have for you....<BR/><BR/>I feel our gut instinct in these situations know best.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19066927.post-1154972036099134442006-08-07T13:33:00.000-04:002006-08-07T13:33:00.000-04:00I guess this person has more business than she nee...I guess this person has more business than she needs. Or way too little - hmph, wonder why?!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19066927.post-1154820081606039952006-08-05T19:21:00.000-04:002006-08-05T19:21:00.000-04:00Clearly this visitor was there to get. Whoever in...Clearly this visitor was there to get. Whoever invited them needs to fully explain the Givers Gain philosophy of BNI and especially the category rule. I myself have not been in the BNI/WEN circle for very long and I did have a similar situation happen to me early on. I also received what I felt was an insult about my business, but I continue to educate myself about networking and listen to those I respect. People like this visitor will not build customer loyalty, they will only have one time buyer customers, or like Debby, no customer at all. This is the difference between success and setting yourself up for failure.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19066927.post-1154745605900786172006-08-04T22:40:00.000-04:002006-08-04T22:40:00.000-04:00I had an almost identical experience last week! I...I had an almost identical experience last week! I was a substitute at a BNI chapter that I'd not attended before. The person sitting next to me not only tried to sell me every product she had (during commercials and the 10-minute presentation, no less), but she said she'd love to give me a cute little pixie haircut and some highlights to make me look younger! Why would I ever want to do business with someone like that?Sandy of Sandy's Stuff for Womenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03576595722041109869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19066927.post-1154708080751978712006-08-04T12:14:00.000-04:002006-08-04T12:14:00.000-04:00I agree. Your new "friend" could have invited you ...I agree. Your new "friend" could have invited you for coffee or a meal to get to know you better -- first -- before trying to blaze that trail to "profitablity" with you: This person was thinking "What's in this for me?" not..."How can I help you?"<BR/>P.S. And, in this scenario, if she had the proper mindset to invite you to meet one-on-one, it would have been most appropriate to treat you to that coffee or meal as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com